Is there anything more inspiring than watching women absolutely crushing it? And when they’re your BFF, it’s even sweeter. Seeing them dream big dreams, make big plans, going after it with everything they have — chills.
We know this in our personal lives … but it’s also 100% true in our financial lives as well. And this isn’t just an opinion — it’s backed by actual research. Slack this one to the friends who always have your back.
1. Work wives are amazing.
Seriously. Work wives make you better. Much better. They give you confidence, make you more collaborative, and help you get ahead. When we’re in each other’s corners, we can amplify one another’s voices, like women in the Obama administration did.
Gallup, which has helped companies understand their employees’ engagement levels for decades, asks a simple question in their survey: “Do you have a best friend at work?” They found that women who answer “yes” are more than twice as likely to feel engaged ... and they perform better.
And like Gabby Noone famously said: “Behind every strong woman is five other strong women who proofread her email real quick when they had a second.”
2. We help each other find our dream jobs.
Recent research tells us that in order for women to get ahead in their careers, we can’t rely on the networking techniques that work for men — namely, meeting a ton of people and building broad connections. Instead, women need to network widely and have a tight inner circle of other women.
Because when we have a team like that, we keep your eyes peeled for opportunities that would be perfect for our friends. We tell them about good jobs, and filter out the bad. We help them think through big career risk decisions and shape their own paths.
3. We provide much-needed perspective.
Friends are good for your mental health. At the office, our work wives know our tells, and can keep an eye out for signs that we’re overly stressed or approaching burnout and gently remind us to care of us.
Away from the office, sometimes you just need someone who knows you really well to tell you what’s what. Things like: “Hey, you know, it isn’t actually normal for that terrible manager to treat you that way. I’m starting to think you’ve got Stockholm Syndrome.” Or maybe “Hmmmmm, do you think it’s possible you’re standing in your own way on this one?” Or “OH HELL YES, you’re an incredibly capable and valuable person and I pity the fate of anyone or anything that stands between you and the life you deserve.”
4. We talk about money.
OK, maybe you’re not talking money with every friend you’ve got — because talking about money is one of our society’s last taboos. But with our close friends, it doesn’t have to be.
Your wider circle of friends can also bring great insight about how you might negotiate a raise, ask for a promotion, pitch a new project, and so on. And, if it seems right, you might even compare salaries. Because friends don’t let friends negotiate a raise without all the info they can possibly provide.
5. We hold each other accountable.
One study found that people who put their goals on paper and sent weekly updates to a friend had 33% more slay than people who kept their goals in their heads. Another found that having a friend present made women better entrepreneurs. Another found that surrounding yourself with strong-willed friends can help if you’re not so great with self-control. Yet another found that you may be more likely to take unwise financial risks if you’ve got fewer friends. (Seriously, we could go on and on with the data on this one.)
6. We rise together.
You didn’t think we were going to leave investing off this list, did you? Ellevest’s Refer a Friend program literally exists so you and your friends can help lift each other up financially. (And to give you both a referral bonus,* too.) Plus, once you refer two friends you’ll be called an Elle Raisers Ambassador, which is just a thank-you from us (and the broader Elle Raiser community) to tell the world how great you are.
Friends bring friends along when they rise. Because what’s better than crushing your goals, living the life you want, and someday being a badass grandma? Enjoying that success with your BFFs by your side.